The phrase the enemy of my enemy is my friend is a proverb that advances the concept that someone who is the enemy of your enemy is therefore your friend. It further means that because two parties have a common enemy, one can use the other to advance their goals. (From Wikipedia).
I disagree a little about this because the enemy of my enemy is very often not a person. I think that the enemy of my enemy is the warped mindset. An enemy (if you consider anybody as one) is usually the opposite of your friend (as Wikipedia nicely puts it)! So your enemy, let's say 'he' for ease of writing, is a person who relishes your downfalls and glorifies your faults.
His life, or a part of it, is just a crusade to showboat. Many decisions revolve around making a public statement that he is doing better. In fact, he would even befriend those he would not normally be interested in but who he thinks are your enemies, just to make a point. It's sad because "birds of a feather flock together".
When people begin to live their lives in accordance with hatred and mischief, I know it eats them inside. So it isn't simply that my enemy is my enemy's friend. It's more a case of my enemy misunderstanding the true essence of a friend.
In my mind, I think that the weakest people source out the enemies of their enemy. They court them. They stay in touch. Nothing unites them but a misguided sense of camaraderie. They cannot justify what or why they feel and they look for validation with others who might give them some quick fix. Once they do that, they go down a slippery slope because friendships, true friendships cannot grow when you have a hidden agenda.
I think at some point in my own life, I might have been guilty of it too. I know that admitting it is half the battle won. Moving away from that practise is the final hurdle to jump over. It takes strength of character to discern the reasons for initiating a friendship.
I'm not saying that every scenario that starts this way ends badly. I am sure that sometimes you can genuinely find a real friend even when you had the wrong intentions at the beginning.
However, true friendship sees growth and needs fertilisation. The crop won't grow if you never intended to nurture it. The only path you follow is perpetuating a lie and the one who eventually loses would be you.
The enemy of my enemy isn't a tangible being. The enemy of my enemy is an intangible mindset that shackles the normal protocol of making friends and hinders true freedom to live normally.
I guess what I'm saying is that we should be friends for the right reasons! Right?
(all photos from here)