26 March 2009

Of Being 50

Even before my birthday, I was already excited about it.
Thanks to my sweet boss, I had a pre-birthday lunch celebration with my colleagues at the Lake Club. The food was so delicious and the company was really great. It is nice to be able to interact with colleagues on a social level and find that apart from official matters, we have much in common.
When the lunch was over, one of my colleagues asked me what it meant to me to be 50. I was stumped for a couple of seconds. Although I did reply, something insignificant, almost immediately, his question did set me thinking a bit more about it.
So what does being 50 mean to me?
Physically: I think I look okay. Many have told me that I still look great. Okay, admittedly the body could be in better shape. However, I enjoy good health. I am not so out of my mind as to think I can pull off wearing a tight body hugging lycra outfit. I believe I dress sensibly and comfortably. I still look good in some outfits.
Emotionally: I’ve come a long way, for sure. I see life and love differently. I don’t take people or anything for granted. I enjoy living and I make the most out of it. I have learnt to be happy even when there is sadness around me. I believe that I am quite strong emotionally.
Intellectually: I realise that being 50 doesn’t mean I know everything. I don’t. I do know that there’s still so much more to learn. There’s a lesson in every meeting, every encounter and every situation. Anytime is a good time to be stimulated intellectually. Age is no barrier if the will is there.
Sexually: Hmmmm. Hmmmmm. Who said it’s the end of the road when you turn 50? Don’t you believe it?
Financially: To have been working since I was 19 has given me some sort of stability. I know it’s not what makes life count. However, it is an intangible “reward” to be able to look back with some pride, at having been able to fend for oneself.
In a nutshell, being 50 is no different from being 20 or 30 or 40. It’s just that, for me, I had looked forward to this day for a long time. Why? I don’t exactly know!
Maybe for me, it’s like a checkpoint. Somewhat like when I go to Singapore. We go through the Tuas Checkpoint to make sure everything is in order. So being 50 was my checkpoint. To see if I’ve done what I had set out to do in life. If not, to get back on track. It’s also to see if I’ve made my life count. Not really by anything global but by the thousands of little good deeds here and there and everywhere. Plus it’s a great time to check the relationships that need mending and tending. Being 50 is just as good a time as any to do that.
Over the last 50 years, I’ve been terribly sad but I’ve also been deliriously happy. What I remember most from those years is the good times. It’s the memories that keep me grounded. It’s the love and support of family and friends that keep me going. It’s the only reason to celebrate life and living.

13 comments:

Anonymous said...

How I wish I could be as happy as you are. And you are right, you do look great at 50.

Estrelita Soliano Grosse said...

Anonymous 02:00: Thank you for the compliment which was neutralised by the fact that you sound unhappy. I am sure you can find some blessings in your life and some happiness, even in simple things. Slowly these grow and one day you wake up and you find that happiness is a state of being.

I wish you well and I wish you happiness. :)

HH said...

As Mick Jagger said…Financially Satisfied, Sexually Satisfied…Philosophically still trying …or words to that effect...

HH

Anonymous said...

Happy Birthday Ta..

Lots of love.. Rin..

Estrelita Soliano Grosse said...

Rin: Better late than never! Love you. :)

koolgeek said...

aging gracefully is the way to go.

keep it up!

Estrelita Soliano Grosse said...

koolgeek: How kool is it to get a kool comment from koolgeek!!!! :)

zewt said...

happy belated birthday...

Estrelita Soliano Grosse said...

Zewt: Hi dear and thanks! Better late than never, right? :)

Michael Jalleh Blog said...

Wow... 50 already, I knew that I was younger then you.

But will soon follow you in reaching that Golden Milestone...

Got this off the net
THE PERKS OF BEING OVER 50

1. Kidnappers are not very interested in you.

2. In a hostage situation you are likely to be released first.

3. No one expects you to run -- anywhere.

4. People call at 9 pm and ask, did I wake you?

5. People no longer view you as a hypochondriac.

6. There is nothing left to learn the hard way.

7. Things you buy now won't wear out.

8. You can eat supper at 4 pm.

9. You can live without sex but not your glasses.

10. You get into heated arguments about pension plans.

11. You no longer think of speed limits as a challenge.

12. You quit trying to hold your stomach in no matter who walks into the room.

13. You sing along with elevator music.

14. Your eyes won't get much worse.

15. Your investment in health insurance is finally beginning to pay off.

16. Your joints are more accurate meteorologists than the national weather service.

17. Your secrets are safe with your friends because they can't remember them either.

18. Your supply of brain cells is finally down to manageable size.

19. You can get cheaper car insurance.

20. These statement should have been done in Bold Print for your convenience!

Estrelita Soliano Grosse said...

Michael Jalleh: Yes, I always knew you were younger. :)

Thanks for the visit and the wishes. God bless!

Anonymous said...

Happy Belated Birthday Lita!
It was just before Christmas when some some of us from way back than were talking about DC and you.
It's good to see that you have moved on compared to when I last saw you. Jared has grown.

Anyway, all the best and God Bless!

Cheers
Lionel DC

Estrelita Soliano Grosse said...

Lionel DC: Hey, I hope you are the one that I think you are! Well, nice of you to drop by.

Thanks for the comment. I truly appreciate it.

Take care and God bless! :)